One who expects to be kept by other leads a life that is no life
He who has no means to feed himself and waits for food on the thought that his next life will be difficult and full of suffering. The need for help, as a result of his constant poverty, will make his life even more difficult.
("Rabban, we have said that three lives are not life: the one who looks for the welfare of his fellow man, and the one whose wife rules over him, and the one who is tormented by the torment of his body, and some say even the one who has nothing but one piece" - Shimon Iyob Ramez will gather, and thus: "Everyone who looks for the welfare of others - the world is dark in his evening, as it was said (Yoyob Tu) is a wanderer. For bread is a gift that a dark day is in its hand. Rav Chisda said: "Even his life is not life" - Bitzah Lev b.)
Translation
Expression (Hebrew)
הַמְּצַפֶּה לְשֻׁלְחַן חֲבֵרוֹ חַיָּיו אֵינָם חַיִּים
Definition (Hebrew)
מִי שֶׁאֵין לוֹ אֶמְצָעִים לְפַרְנֵס אֶת עַצְמוֹ וּמְחַכֶּה לִסְעוּדָה עַל חֶשְׁבּוֹנוֹ שֶׁל אַחֵר חַיָּיו קָשִׁים וּמְלֵאֵי סֵבֶל. הַנִּזְקָק לְעֶזְרָה כַּלְכָּלִית מִזּוּלָתוֹ בְּאֹפֶן קָבוּעַ חַיָּיו קָשִׁים בְּיוֹתֵר .
("תְּנוּ רַבָּנָן שְׁלֹשָׁה חַיֵּיהֶם אֵינָם חַיִּים: הַמְּצַפֶּה לְשֻׁלְחַן חֲבֵרוֹ, וּמִי שֶׁאִשְׁתּוֹ מוֹשֶׁלֶת עָלָיו וּמִי שֶׁיִּסּוּרִים מוֹשְׁלִים בְּגוּפוֹ וְיֵשׁ אוֹמְרִים אַף מִי שֶׁאֵין לוֹ אֶלָּא חָלוּק אֶחָד"- יַלְקוּט שִׁמְעוֹנִי אִיּוֹב רֶמֶז תתקז,וְכֵן:"כָּל הַמְצַפֶּה עַל שֻׁלְחַן אֲחֵרִים- עוֹלָם חָשַׁךְ בַּעֲדוֹ, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (אִיּוֹב טוּ) נֹדֵד הוּא לַלֶּחֶם אַיֵּה יָדַע כִּי נָכוֹן בְּיָדוֹ יוֹם חֹשֶׁךְ. רַב חִסְדָּא אָמַר: אַף חַיָּיו אֵינָן חַיִּים"- בֵּיצָה לֵב ע"ב)