דְּאָגָה בְלֶב אִישׁ יַשְׁחֶנָּה/ דְּאָגָה בְלֶב אִישׁ יְשִׂיחֶנָּה

ביטוי (אנגלית)

If a person has worries, let him talk them over/ a man often soften his sorrows by telling them to others

הגדרה (אנגלית)

A person should strive to ignore their worries and overcome them. Alternatively: a person has a tendency to share their concerns with others in order to gain encouragement (to keep them silent means to suppress them; to speak means to express them).

(“A worry in a person’s heart depresses him, but a good word makes him glad.” — Book of Proverbs 12:25; and likewise: “A worry in a person’s heart—should he speak of it? Rabbi Imi and Rabbi Assi differed: one said, he should speak of it to himself, and the other said, he should speak of it to others.” — Tractate Sanhedrin 101b; and likewise: “The poor man cried out to him to recount why, for as Solomon said in his wisdom: ‘A worry in a person’s heart depresses him,’ meaning he should speak of it to others… everything was made clear.” — S. Y. Agnon, Elu VaElu, “He Was the Straight Jacob,” p. 77; and likewise: “And the wise man said long ago: ‘A worry in a person’s heart depresses him,’ and the Sages said he should speak of it to others.” — Mordechai ben Yechezkel, Sefer HaMa’asiyot, Part IV, “The Just and the Humble,” p. 93.)